A teen cried because of a diet suggested to her by her gym coach, mom and reddit

If there’s one thing we know from talking about our collective relationship between food and body image here, it’s that food is very personal. Each person’s relationship with him is unique, and different families and different individuals will have their own approach. Sometimes there is friction along the way.

One young teen posting on the popular r/AITA subreddit found herself dealing with some of the intricacies of that friction when she wondered if her intense emotional reaction to the meal plan recommended to her (by her gym-trained mother) was understandable.

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The poster, 14, said her experience with a health condition prompted her to go on an ongoing weight loss diet. The condition — later noted as a Cerberian tumor (or idiopathic intracranial hypertension) — occurs when there is too much cerebrospinal fluid accumulating in a person’s body, according to Johns Hopkins, which can sometimes be common in people with higher weights. . So it is understandable that when faced with a diagnosis like this, the caregiver and her family doctor will want to introduce some dietary changes that will benefit the health of their children.

However, things get dicey on delivery, when you see the poster detailing that her mom said she must do a third round of an “extreme 13-day diet” that she hates because she “finally got skinny” before starting high school. Now, we strongly believe that one’s body and needs are not something we can make blanket statements about as strangers, but it’s also important to be critical about the narrative in health that being thin is automatically the key to health. The poster indicated her height and weight – although we don’t give much credence to the BMI obsession in our culture – they are considered to be within the “normal” range. Add in the nature of any extreme short-term diet in which “thinness” is a stated goal, there is little mix and match potential health needs to prioritize nutrition and the scourge of diet culture seeking a poor outcome without much thought of the harms of a harsh diet to get there.

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As noted by SheKnows previously, weight loss diets are a risky business (as opposed to making permanent adjustments that support your overall nutrition) that often do more harm than good and lead to outcomes such as nutrient deficiencies, developing disordered eating habits, causing a metabolic malfunction. Problems or regaining weight previously lost due to restrictions. That last part was also something the poster said she was worried about, noting that the “stress” of the diet generally gets to her. So when she saw her very limited “extreme” meal plan again–combined with feeling she had no choice–she said she couldn’t help but had a strong emotional reaction. Ultimately, it’s understandable that teens have those feelings when it comes to their health, their bodies, and their lifestyle changes.

“Just looking at the meal plan, I burst into tears about having to do it all over again, and yelled at me for not being able to connect with my dad,” she wrote. “I only agree to do it because it makes me feel like I have no choice. I know this is for my health and it will make me healthier but I hate it so much…”

The redditors were quick to comfort her, again pointing out that her body weight wasn’t something she was ashamed of and encouraging her not to internalize the “thin” mindset or indulge in yo-yo dieting. While her health needs, again, are special needs and her own, it’s also good to reiterate, given that many people don’t hear this piece from the adults in their lives (especially from generations that are completely brainwashed by system culture). food.).

One commenter said, “I feel like my mum and OP are alike, my mum started putting on my tough diets early on.” “I was crying because I was so fat at the time I was [seven] And hiding when I eat / I refuse to eat around others. I feel bad, having an adult physique at such a young age and being ashamed because it feels terrible.”

While many of these leads don’t do much by closure or comfort, the poster went back to the thread to say she had a conversation with her mother and they both agreed they could consider more holistic healthy lifestyle choices – improving food choices and incorporating more exercise – instead From the highly restrictive diet to getting where her body needs it for her upcoming health care and surgery.

But this is a good opportunity for adults to know that when it comes to helping teens and children learn about the foods they need to fuel their bodies, it’s important to keep in mind the messages they may be taking in and how they will affect their lives for the long haul. Relationships with food. In the end, make sure that you decide together what your nutritional goals should be and how to have a more positive, non-toxic relationship with our bodies.

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